And how to realign with what matters most before burnout or regret sets in.
The Feelings of Dread & Discomfort Creeping In
Do you wake up dreading to go to work? Or have an overwhelming feeling of discomfort that’s creeping into your life slowly?
You can’t always name it. But you feel it:
- You’re not sleeping well.
- You’re snapping at people.
- You’re going through the motions, and nothing really feels like you any more.
If that sounds familiar, there’s often a reason:
Your core Life Values might be under threat, out-of-synch, or are being ignored.
and your body might know it before your brain does.
Why This Happens
When your values are being compromised, you’re essentially living in ways that conflict with who you really are.
This isn’t always dramatic. It’s often subtle:
- You take on projects that don’t sit right.
- You silence your truth to keep the peace.
- You chase goals that look good but feel hollow.
At first, you justify it.
Then you tolerate it.
Eventually… it wears you down.
But here’s the truth: misaligned values don’t just go away on their own. Even if you ignore them, sweep the feelings under the rug, the conflict starts creating friction. It shows up in your life, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
5 Warning Signs Your Values Are Being Compromised
1. You Feel Constantly Irritated or Resentful
You snap easily. Everything feels like a burden.
You’re not just tired — you’re edgy.
What it often means:
You’re being pulled away from values like freedom, fairness, or respect. You may feel like your time, energy, or truth is being stepped on — but haven’t said it out loud yet.
2. You Feel Disconnected From Yourself
You catch yourself thinking, “Who even am I right now?”
What it often means:
You’ve drifted from identity-shaping values like authenticity, creativity, or connection. You’ve stopped doing the things that made you feel alive.
3. You Feel Disconnected From Yourself
Every choice feels heavy. You second-guess everything.
What it often means:
Your values aren’t clear — or you’re torn between honouring them and pleasing others. You feel stuck between obligation and truth.
4. You’re Burnt Out (and You Can’t Blame Just Work)
Rest isn’t helping anymore. Even things you used to love feel draining.
What it often means:
You’ve been operating outside your values for too long — giving energy to things that don’t fulfill or inspire you. Especially common when you ignore values like wellbeing, purpose, or simplicity.
Rest isn’t helping anymore. Even things you used to love feel draining.
What it often means:
You’ve been operating outside your values for too long — giving energy to things that don’t fulfill or inspire you. Especially common when you ignore values like wellbeing, purpose, or simplicity.
5. You Feel Alone — Even Around People
You’re surrounded by people… but you feel distant. Like no one really gets you.
What it often means:
Your relational values — like intimacy, honesty, loyalty, or empathy — may be going unmet. You might be hiding parts of yourself or accepting relationships that don’t reflect your truth.
So What Can You Do?
Here’s the uplifting part:
You can ‘course-correct’ with clarity, self-trust, and simple tools.
Let’s do a quick exercise, inspired by my Life Values Method™
Mini Exercise: Spot the Compromise
1. Write down 3–5 values you know are important to you.
(If unsure, think: What do I crave when things feel “off” in life?)
2. For each value, ask:
- Am I living this right now?
- What’s blocking it?
- What’s one small way I could honour it this week?
Example:
- Value: Creativity
- Status: “I haven’t done anything creative in months.”
- Block: “Too much client work that doesn’t inspire me.”
- Action: “Take one afternoon this week to sketch, journal, or build something for me.”
Small actions realign you. One shift at a time.
Final Thought
If these signs hit close to home, you’re not failing — you’re being called back to yourself.
Values are your compass. When you stop following them, you feel lost. But the path back is always there.
It starts with a choice:
- To honour what matters.
- To say yes to who you are.
- To stop compromising.
Ready to Reconnect With What Matters?
Start with a Discovery Session
- 90 minutes via Zoom
- $279 AUD
- Includes a free deck of Life Values Cards – valued at $97 (Australian residents only)
- Practical and insightful session – empowering you for success.