Help Couples Move From Conflict to Shared Meaning
When couples arrive in therapy, they can become consumed by the details of the latest argument.
Who said what.
Who was hurt.
Who is right.
Who is to blame.
Sound familiar?
Beneath the conflict, there’s often a deeper question they have lost sight of:
What are we trying to build together?
The Shared Relationship Values Exercise helps couples step back from the tension and reconnect with what matters – their values.
It helps you and your couples get unstuck. It gives both partners a simple, structured, and powerful way to identify their individual values, come to the table together, and begin shaping their shared relationship values.
They identify the values they want to live by. Things like:
Trust. Respect. Kindness. Honesty. Connection. Love. Intimacy. Stability. Growth and Family.
This free worksheet is extracted from the Life Values Method™ Practitioner Handbook and includes helpful practitioner instructions and prompts to help you run an effective couples therapy session.
This work is foundational. It helps set the scene for deeper conversations, clearer communication, repair, commitment, emotional safety, shared meaning, and renewed direction.
For committed couples, shared values work can help stabilise the relationship and create a stronger sense of hope about what they are building together.
Values work lays the foundation. With couples clearer on what matters, they feel heard, aligned, and more engaged, meaning your work lands easier and goes deeper, whether you’re using Gottman, RLT, EFT, or your own approach.
Download the free Shared Values Exercise PDF below and use it as a practical tool in your couples work.
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